My Blog
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and ADHD: When the Fear of Rejection Holds You Back
A shorter reply. A change in tone. And off my head goes. My personal experience of rejection sensitivity, the fear that has held me back, and the tools that help most of the time, massively!!
Why Do I Overexplain Myself? When Being Understood Feels So Important
Do you turn a simple no into a long explanation, then replay the conversation afterwards? Explore why overexplaining can feel necessary and how to communicate your needs with more clarity, self-trust, and compassion.
What Did a Late ADHD Diagnosis Feel Like for Me?
A late ADHD diagnosis helped me make sense of years of overwhelm, social anxiety and appearing together while feeling frazzled behind the scenes. For ADHD Awareness Month, I’m sharing my story of learning to understand myself with compassion.
What Do I Talk About in Therapy When I Don’t Know Where to Start?
You do not need a plan or the perfect words before starting counselling. Explore what to expect at your first session, how we can begin when your mind goes blank, and why therapy can also be a form of emotional self care.
Why Is Time Management So Difficult With ADHD?
If planners and beautifully colour coded lists were enough, people with ADHD would be running the world by lunchtime. Discover six realistic tools for time blindness, waiting mode, motivation and everyday overwhelm.
You Are Not Broken: Why I Created These Workbooks for Self Discovery
I did not become a therapist because therapy immediately gave me all the answers. I became a therapist because I know what it feels like to search for something that might finally fix you. These workbooks offer a gentler place to pause, understand yourself and discover what support looks like for you.
Why Do Small Tasks Feel So Overwhelming With ADHD?
Why can someone with ADHD manage a crisis yet feel defeated by a parcel, phone call or washing basket? Louise Montgomery explores the hidden mental load behind everyday life admin.
How to Understand Your Emotions: Pause, Notice, Understand, Choose
What if your emotions are not the problem, but important information? Learn how to recognise what you are feeling, understand what your emotions may be communicating and choose one compassionate next step using Pause. Notice. Understand. Choose.
Why Do People Drift Apart? The Relationships That Change Along Life’s Journey
Why do some friendships change as we grow? This compassionate reflection explores shared history, changing priorities, boundaries and the people we invite to our table. It considers why an oldest friend is not always a closest friend, and how paths can separate without making the relationship a mistake.
Exam Results and Parental Pressure: Why Your Child’s Grades Should Never Define Their Worth
Exam results can shape opportunities, but they should never define a young person’s worth. This blog explores parental pressure, comparison, achievement and the lifelong messages children can carry about being “good enough.”
The Power of Yet
Negative self talk can shape confidence, self worth and the way we see ourselves. This compassionate blog explores self discovery, learned beliefs, the inner critic and the power of yet, helping you understand where old patterns may come from and how curiosity, self compassion and small changes can help you begin to trust yourself.
How Did I Not Know? The ADHD Traits I Thought Were Just Me
How did I not realise I had ADHD sooner? From abandoned washing and forgotten keys to hyperfocus, RSD, social anxiety and hormonal overwhelm, this honest reflection explores the adult ADHD traits I once thought were simply part of who I was. Diagnosis did not change me. It helped me understand myself with more compassion, self acceptance and far less judgement.
How Did I Not Know I Had ADHD? 678 Thoughts During a Massage
I booked a relaxing lymphatic drainage massage expecting an hour of peace. Instead, my ADHD brain produced approximately 678 thoughts about dinner, forgotten messages, trauma, healing, meditation and whether it is possible to fail at having a massage. This funny and honest reflection explores ADHD mental chatter, overthinking, hidden exhaustion and the surprising amount of effort it can take for a busy brain to simply rest.
The 5 Stages of Self-Discovery
Self-discovery is rarely a simple or straightforward journey. This reflective guide explores five common stages of personal growth: awakening, grieving, the messy middle, reclaiming and becoming. Learn how greater self-awareness and self-compassion can help you reconnect with who you truly are.
Perimenopause, ADHD and Emotional Overwhelm: Why Everything Can Suddenly Feel Too Much
ADHD and Relationships: Why Small Moments Can Feel So Big
Generational Trauma: When the Pain Did Not Start With You
Don’t Judge a Book by Its Cover: Why We Never Know the Full Story Behind Someone’s Smile
ADHD, RSD and Rejection Sensitivity: The Hidden Emotional Pain Behind ADHD
You Matter: Learning to Come Back to Yourself
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Louise Montgomery is a BACP-accredited integrative counsellor with over 25 years’ experience in mental health, trauma, addiction and support services. She offers counselling, ADHD coaching and advocacy-informed support, with a compassionate, neurodiversity-affirming and client-led approach.